Dear Grandpa Robert -- Love Life

Dear Grandpa Robert,
My boyfriend and I never have any time for ourselves, it's always the kids and we don't have a lot of money. What can we do to keep our love life alive?

This is another problem most parents face. In my book, The Ultimate Guide for Stay-at-home Parents, I have a chapter on that. Here is an excerpt from the book:

“Married couples need time together. Spouses must complement each other and express appreciation to one another. Make sure to you spend some time alone together so that you can both forget about the children and center on each other. There are many different ways to do this. Here are a few suggestions:

• Run a nice warm bath. Pour in some fragrant bath oil and then using a soft sponge; gently

Bathe each other from head-to-toe. To add another unique touch you can take and old bottle, write a love poem or just your feeling toward your partner, and have it floating in the bath tub.

• When your spouse is taking a shower, take the towel, place it in the dryer to warm it and then

give it to them to use to dry off. It will lead to more.

• Buy a book from an author that both of you like and designate a night to read it. Take turns to reading to each other.

• Record your favorite songs and sit and listen while talking about the memories the song brings to each of you. It can be songs from when you first met, first dance, wedding, etc.

• Put on some soothing music and dance while in each other’s arms.

• Serve dinner to the children and then have a late dinner just for the two of you. Add candles, or make it a picnic on the patio or in the yard. You can relax and eat while viewing the stars.

• Pick up a romantic movie and watch it while snuggling on the sofa.
• Give each other a massage. Use aromatherapy oils. Focus on the neck and the back. Dim the lights to set a more romantic scene.

• Create a video challenge night with romantic rewards for the winner. It is a game where everyone wins.

• Take the child monitor and camp out in the back yard or patio on sleeping bags or blankets. Cuddle, relax, and talk about whatever you want. Move yourself out of the work place and put yourself into the home you have taken so much time to make comfortable. Don’t do any cleaning, ironing, or anything else that relates to housework. Intimacy is a portion of your relationship that must be maintained.